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You deserve to be loved the way you love others. You deserve to feel seen. You deserve to sleep beside someone who does not try to quiet your heartbeat, passion, or the way you show up in this world. You deserve to be with the kind of person who loves all of your twists and does not try to untie them. You deserve to love someone who does not judge you for how you had to heal your sadness, someone who does not hold your past against you. You deserve to be chosen and never to be loved in halves. You deserve someone sure of you; you deserve someone who stays.

However, you also deserve to exist as this person for yourself. So please, stand up for your heart. Defend it. Know when to walk away from the people who cannot love you the way you deserve to be loved because a love bred out of convenience, a love that caters to our need for attention rather than passion, is a love that will not inspire you when you roll over at 6 am to embrace it. Strive to discover foundational love, the kind of relationship that motivates you to be a better human being, the type of intimacy that is rare rather than right there.

Until then, be alone. For your capacity to be sole, your ability to be your own home, your foundation, is going to directly reflect the way you love these human beings when they come into your life. When you know yourself, when you stand up for your heart, you do not bankrupt who you are to keep half-loves in your life. Love becomes less about filling a void, love becomes less about possession, and less about dependence, and it transforms into something that can be fully and deeply appreciated and felt because you are not afraid that its loss will destroy you. You are not scared of being without it because you will always have yourself.

In your own company, you will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your dreams, your own beliefs, and your stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it because you are sure of yourself. Wait for that kind of love. Please, I urge you to wait for it, to fight for it, to make an effort for it if you have already found it because it is the most beautiful thing your heart will experience.