The ‘theory’ of the period of a pendulum is Time = 2pi. times square root of Length/gravitational constant. Now, ask, what is period of pendulum in Dubai, and Rangiputa. Answer: we do not know until we go to these places measure the length, and calculate the period.
The point is, this analogy illustrates exactly the relationship of all human knowledge to the objects of that knowledge. Any theory of psychology can only tell us the variables we need measure, offer guidelines as to the steps to take to improve our psychology, it can NEVER correct our psychology.
I have researched these issue for 40 years, my work at www (dot) ssrn (dot) com/author=2472745. In practice what does this mean?
Science can ONLY tell us the path to take, it can only tell us that if we walk that path we can make our life experience better for ourselves.
It begins with assuming full responsibility for our choices. The science says Alcoholics Anomalous got it right, that is a person is beyond all help until they decide they want to change.
The science says what AA applies in fact applies in all things. If you are in pain, depressed, have unreasonable fears, then the start of all recovery is you deciding you want you to be different.
It is never easy … AA never state that. But, they know unless the base of change is secure in you, then nothing will change and you will go on experiencing the adversities of life you wish to be rid of, but wishing will not do it.
There is no silver bullet, there is no ‘expert’ that can ‘fix’ you. there is no need for psychotherapists, a group of supportive souls is better.
If you have psychological, mental health issues, stop looking around, stop looking to government to spend more money and fix people, they cannot, they are unable in principles to do so. Looking to anyone else including government is people avoiding taking full and total responsibility for their own mental state, and step by difficult step fighting for improved life experience for themselves in the future.
If you think it should be quick, without pain, without struggle, I suggest you chat with AA and recovered drug addicts and alcoholics.