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Patience is the ballast of the soul, that will keep it from rolling and tumbling in the greatest storms. All life is but one vast representation of the beauty and value of patience. Troubles and sorrows are in store for all. It is useless to try to escape them, and, indeed, it is well we can not, as they seem essential to the perfection and development of character into its highest and best form. But their disciplinary value arises from the great lesson of patience they are constantly inculcating.

Either patience must be a quality graciously inherent in the heart of man, or it must be acquired as the lesson of years’ experience, if he would enjoy the greatest good of life. Without it prosperity will be continually disturbed, and adversity will be clouded with double darkness. The loud complaint, the querulous temper and fretful spirit disgrace every character. We weaken thereby the sympathy of others, and estrange them from offices of kindness and comfort. But to maintain a steady and unbroken mind amidst all the shocks of adversity forms the highest honor of man. Afflictions supported by patience and surmounted by fortitude give the last finishing stroke to the heroic and virtuous character. Patience produces unity in the Church, loyalty in the state, harmony in families and societies. She comforts the poor and moderates the rich; she makes us humble in prosperity, cheerful in adversity, unmoved by calumny, and above reproach; she teaches us to forgive those who have injured us, and to be the first in asking the forgiveness of those whom we have injured; she delights the faithful, and invites the unbelieving; she adorns the woman and approves the man; she is beautiful in either sex and every age.

Patience has been defined as the “courage of virtue;” the principle which enables us to lessen the pains of mind or body; an emotion that does not so much add to the number of our joys as it tends to diminish the number of our sufferings. If life is made to abound with pains and troubles by the errors and the crimes of man, it is no small advantage to have a faculty that enables us to soften these pains and ameliorate these troubles. He that has patience can have what he will. There is no road too long to the man who advances deliberately and without undue haste. There are no honors too distant for the man who prepares himself for them with patience. Nature herself abounds with examples of patience. Day follows the murkiest night, and when the time comes the latest fruits also ripen. Its most beneficent operations, and those which take place on a grand scale, are the results of patience. The great works of human power, achieved by the hand of genius, are but eloquent examples of what may be achieved by the exercise of this virtue. History and biography abound with examples of signal patience shown by great men under trying circumstances.

In the pursuit of worldly success patience or a willingness to bide one’s time is no less necessary as a factor than perseverance. Says De Maistre, “To know how to wait is the great secret of success.” And of all the lessons that humanity teaches in this school of the world, the hardest is to wait. Not to wait with folded hands that claim life’s prizes without previous effort, but having toiled and struggled and crowded the slow years with trial to see then no results, or, perhaps, disastrous results, and yet to stand firm, to preserve one’s poise, and relax no effort,—this, it has been truly said, is greatness, whether achieved by man or woman. The world can not be circumnavigated by one wind. The grandest results can not be achieved in a day. The fruits that are best worth plucking usually ripen the most slowly, and, therefore, every one who would gain a solid success must learn “to labor and to wait.” What a world of meaning in those few words! And how many are possessed of the moral courage to live in that state? It is the tendency of the times to be in a hurry when there is any object to be accomplished. In the pursuit of riches it is only the exceptional persons who are content with slow gains, willing to acquire wealth by adding penny to penny, dollar to dollar; the mass of business men are too apt to despise such a tedious and laborious means of ascent, and they rush headlong into schemes for the sudden acquisition of wealth. Or, in the field of professional life, we are too prone to forget there is no royal road to great acquirements, and feel an unwillingness to lay broad and deep, by years of patient study and laborious research, the foundation whereon to build an enduring monument worthy of public credit and renown.

The history of all who are honored in the world of literature, arts, or science is the history of patient study for years, and its final triumph. Elihu Burritt says: “All that I have accomplished, or expect or hope to accomplish, has been, and will be, by that patient, persevering process of accretion which builds the ant-heap, particle by particle, thought by thought, fact by fact.” Labor still is, and ever will be, the inevitable price set upon every thing which is valuable. Hence, if we would acquire wisdom, we must diligently apply ourselves, and confront the same continuous application which our forefathers did. We must be satisfied to work energetically with a purpose, and wait the results with patience. All progress, of the best kind, is slow; but to him who works faithfully and in a right spirit, be sure that the reward will be vouchsafed in its own good time. Courage must have sunk in despair, and the world must have remained unimproved and unornamented if man had merely compared the effect of a single stroke of the chisel with the pyramid to be raised, or of a single impression of the spade with the mountain to be leveled. We must continuously apply ourselves to right pursuits, and we can not fail to advance steadily, though it may be unconsciously.

In all evils which admit a remedy impatience should be avoided, because it wastes that time and attention in complaints that, if properly applied, might remove the cause. In cases that admit of no remedy it is worse than useless to give way to impatience, both because of the utter uselessness of so doing as well as that the time thus spent could be better employed in the furtherance of useful designs. Since, then, these two classes of ills comprise all to which human nature is subject, why not make a determined struggle against impatience in every form? It accomplishes nothing that is of value, divides our efforts, frustrates our plans, and generally succeeds in making our lives miserable not only to ourselves, but to all around us.

How much of home happiness and comfort depends upon the exercise of patience! Not a day passes but calls for its exercise from those who sustain the nearest and dearest relations to each other. Let patience have her perfect work in the home circle. Let parents be patient with their children. They are weak, and you are strong. They stand at the eastern gate of life. Experience has not taught them to speak carefully and to go softly. What if their plays and amusements do grate upon your nerves. Bear with them patiently. Care and time will soon enough check their childish impulses. Be patient with your friends. They are neither omniscient nor omnipotent. They can not see your heart, and may misunderstand you. They do not know what is best for you, and may select what is worst. What if, also, they lack purity of purpose or tenacity of affection; do not you lack these graces? Patience is your refuge. Endure, and in enduring conquer them; and if not them, then at least yourself. Be patient with pains and cares. These things are killed by enduring them, but made strong to bite and sting by feeding them with your frets and fears. There is no pain or cure that can last long. None of them shall enter the city of God. A little while, and you shall leave behind you all your troubles, and forget, in your first hour of rest, that such things were on earth. Above all, be patient with your beloved. Love is the best thing on earth; but it is to be handled tenderly, and impatience is the nurse that kills it. Try to smooth life’s weary way each for the other, and in the exercise of the heaven-born virtue of patience will you find the sweetest pleasure of life.

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Patience

Be selfish in your forgiving. Forgive for yourself and for the peace it will bring to your pain. Forgiveness has very little to do with the other person.

Forgiveness is about your peace of mind. When you don’t forgive, you are the one who suffers.

When we refuse to forgive someone, we deeply jeopardize our own well-being. When we condemn others we condemn ourselves.

When we judge and agonize over another’s faults, we become attached to their imbalance and sickness.

When we hold-on to someone’s imperfections we become emotionally pair-bonded to their maladies.

At a deeper level, when we constantly meditate on another’s faults, it may be because we are neglecting our own unhealed wounds! Share this with someone you love and be blessed!

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Be Patient `

Take time to slow down, rushing never gets you anywhere but onto the next activity or goal.


Life can often feel like it’s zipping by in fast forward. We feel obliged to accelerate our speed along with it until our productivity turns into a frenzied accomplishment.

We find ourselves cramming as much activity as possible into the shortest periods. We disregard our natural rhythms because it seems we have to just keep up. In truth, rushing never gets you anywhere but on to the next activity or goal.

Calming down allows you to not only savour your experiences, but also it allows you to fully focus your attention and energy on the task at hand.

Moving at a slower place lets you get things done more efficiently, while rushing diminishes the quality of your work and your relationships.

Slowing down also lets you be more mindful, deliberate, and fully present. When we slow down, we are allowing ourselves to reacquaint ourselves to our natural rhythms.

We let go of the “fast forward” stress, and allow our bodies to remain centred and grounded.

Slowing down is inherent to fully savour anything in life. Rushing to take a bath can feel like an uncomfortable dunk in hot water while taking a slow hot bath can be luxuriant and relaxing.

A student cramming for a test will often feel tired and unsure, whereas someone who absorbs the information will be more confident and relaxed.

Cooking, eating, reading, and writing can become pleasurable when done slowly.

Slowing down lets you become more absorbed in whatever it is you are doing.

The food you eat tastes better, and the stories you read become more alive.

Chilling allows you to disconnect from the frenzied pace buzzing around you so you can begin moving at your own pace. The moments we choose to live in fast forward motion then become a conscious choice rather than an involuntary action.

Learning to slow down in our fast-moving world can take practice, but if you slow down long enough to try it, you may surprise yourself with how natural and organic living at this pace can be.

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God needs you to understand ~

Before you speak, first step back and remind yourself that complaining only finds the worst in situations and never the best.

It doesn’t change anything or anyone.

Try to see the good in every person or situation rather than giving life to negativity.

Don’t ruin relationships and experiences.

You’re never going to see the change you want in yourself or others by finding fault.

That will only limit your ability to experience the fullness of what God wants for you!

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Patience is a gift ~

Conflict is a natural part of existence. Life is a struggle for survival for every organism at every level.

Everyone must “fight” for something at times, although some struggle more than others, and often unnecessarily.

Force will sometimes get you through a challenge, but usually not without hurting and depleting yourself in the process. Brute physical, intellectual and emotional conflict often causes a great deal of collateral damage.

There are gentler and more graceful ways to interface with natural conflict. As you are spiritually mature you will begin to look at conflict in less self-centred ways.

You will realize that engagement is an option. There is an enlightened way to flow with, in, and through conflict. Learn to resist but do not be un-moveable in your resistance.

Resist like the water. Flow. You don’t have to win. You don’t have to be right. You don’t always have to teach the corrective lesson. Sometimes you can teach the lesson of patience and non-engagement.

Be wise. Sometimes it is best to stand back from conflict and allow other elements in someone’s life to do the hard work for you. Time is a masterful teacher. Silence is a masterful teacher. When we want to talk, we can instead listen, and let our attentiveness to another’s need to speak, be our silent statement.

But whatever you do, always do it in unconditional love and not anger, and in compassion, not contempt.

When someone is vicious toward you they are giving you a glimpse of the pain they carry in themselves.

Viciousness is suffering. The way you engage someone’s pain either reinforces their pain or helps to release it. Be gentle when you can.

If you are strong and safe within yourself, then be patient and teach your virtues by your calm example.

Try to be less reactive. Try to be very kind to yourself and others. Start with one deviation from your negative and reactive habits. Instead of assuming, which creates pain and suffering for everyone, be open, curious and expect cooperation. Learn to be light.

Have you ever tried to catch a tiny feather floating in the air? It’s very hard to do. When you try to grab a tiny floating feather, it just flies right around your hand! The more violently you grasp, the faster the wind carries it away. In your heart and disposition, be as light as a feather and when they reach for you – you will blow right by their grip; you will effortlessly float to safety. Be as light as that feather. Have a smile of calm in your heart.

Be peaceful. When you walk in peace you will see attackers shattering themselves against your inner calm. They will defeat themselves!