Letting go of past traumas is a little more challenging because they are often buried deep in our subconscious minds. But buried or not, they can still wreak havoc on our level of happiness.
One of the most powerful techniques I’ve learned for releasing old baggage is to relive painful experiences. It doesn’t sound like much fun (and in fact, it isn’t) but it is freeing. If you stop to think about it, much of our emotional baggage is “buried” simply because we didn’t allow ourselves to work through it the first time around. We squelched down the feelings and tried to ignore them, and there they still lie, festering. If we unearth the painful memories and work through them like we could have done when they originally happened, we can release them and achieve closure.
To bring one’s self to a frame of mind and to the proper energy to accomplish things that require plain hard work continuously is the one big battle that everyone has. When this battle is won for all time, then everything is easy. – Thomas A. Buckner
This is a simple process you can undertake on your own, but if you’ve had very large, life-altering traumas, you may want to consult a counselor or therapist to help you work through them. While the process is simple, it can be emotionally overwhelming, and having a trained professional as a guide can provide invaluable support.
Once you’ve worked through your emotional blockages, you may also want to examine the underlying beliefs that formed because of them.
For example, an abusive childhood might result in a deep-seated belief that you’re not worthy of being loved. Working through painful memories can be freeing, but it won’t automatically change your underlying beliefs about your worthiness as a human being. You could still find yourself avoiding intimacy and sabotaging your efforts to create a fulfilling life.
The good news is that once you identify your limiting beliefs, you can begin changing them with a little conscious focus.