I hope you find complete acceptance, the kind that resonates deep in your soul. May it silence the voice inside you that keeps reminding you of your inadequacies or shortcomings. I hope you can forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and for the memories of the past that you keep holding onto. May you learn to let go of things that you had to do to heal, grow, or survive. Always remember that you are trying your best and that it’s okay to be human.
I hope you find the kind of moments that take your breath away. The kind of moments that change you. I hope you travel to places that cleanse you; I hope you go to concerts that ring through your bones and make you feel alive. I hope you connect with the small things hope you look at someone mid-conversation and you feel your stomach the feelings you have for them. I hope you surround surge with yourself with the kinds of friends who encourage your spontaneity and are always there for you. I hope you live. Truly. I hope you don’t hold back. There is so much to feel in this world. I hope you feel it all.
But above all, my wish for you is to find your true self out there. I hope you discover the depths of your heart, understand your mind completely and learn to be compassionate to yourself. Embrace the journey you are on and cherish every moment of it.
Just about every internet marketer that I have ever known has worked at some kind of job other than internet marketing before they launched their internet marketing careers.
It is a funny thing about working at a job that pays you for the work that you do. You get into a ‘work-equals- money’ mindset. After all, when you work for others, work does, in fact, equal money.
But when you launch an internet marketing career the ‘work’ that used to make money for you now prevents you from making money.
It is true. The ‘work’ that you are doing that you once got paid to do, like answering the telephone, answering emails, filing papers, etc. is actually preventing you from making the deals that will put money in your pocket.
Yet we continue to seek work because we are programmed to think of work as the thing that makes money.
We get stuck in the ‘work-equals-money’ mindset that is counter-productive to building a successful internet marketing business.
We focus our time and energy on finding work for ourselves rather than on focusing our time and energy on making the deals that will make money for us.
It isn’t hard to see why we get into this ‘work-equals-money’ mindset. We have been living with that concept since we were kids.
Think about it. What was your first job? Did you cut grass for a neighbor? Didn’t you get money after you had done the work? Of course, you did. He wasn’t paying you to think…he was paying you to cut grass.
When you got older and got a job at the local burger joint, you got paid for cooking hamburgers and French Fries. You cooked the hamburgers and fries and then you got paid. Word did equal money.
The owner of the hamburger joint wasn’t paying you to find a better way to cook hamburgers or paying you to look for a new market to sell hamburgers. He was only paying you for doing the work of cooking the hamburgers.
But now you are not getting paid for doing the ‘work’. The work isn’t what is making money for you.
It is true that the work must still be done but you don’t have to look for it. It will find you. What you need to be looking for now are the deals that will make you money.
What Constitutes Work?
What is ‘work’? The ‘work’ that makes any business work is just the day-to-day activities that must be accomplished for ness to function. Telephone calls must be answered.
Emails must be read and responded to. Files must be kept orderly. The list goes on and on but this is just ‘work’.
Nobody is going to pay you to answer the phone, read emails or keep files in order. That is simply ‘work’ that must be done. It isn’t making you any money and it most certainly is not what you should be focused upon.
Once an internet marketing business has gotten up and running, it is a very good investment to simply pay a virtual assistant to do the ‘work’ and set yourself free to make the deals that make you money and make your internet marketing business thrive.
You can’t do this right away, of course, but you can use as little of your time as possible on mundane tasks.
You can spend hours and hours and hours of your time working on your website….making it better…tweaking this and tweaking that. That is work that is not putting a single red cent into your bank account.
Hire a techie to do that ‘work’ for you while you are making deals that make more than enough to pay the techie.
Until you can hire someone to do this work for you, get it fixed as best you can, and move on to the productive deal-making.
How many hours are you spending each day writing and making posts to your blogs? Is this time actually making any money for you?
No, of course, it isn’t. It is just ‘work’. It is work that others could do just as well or work that you can find ways to make shorter like by using PLR materials rather than writing every phrase yourself.
Customer service is must be done. It must be done quickly and efficiently and above all competently.
It might even be work that in the beginning at least that you must do yourself.
There are however companies and individuals out there in cyber space that are perfectly capable of handling this work for you and you don’t have to make it harder than it needs to be.
What Constitutes Making Deals?
Yes, the ‘work’ must indeed be done, but the work that must be done should be done as quickly and as efficiently as possible and you shouldn’t concentrate your energy on finding and creating more work that isn’t going to make any money for you.
You need to be focusing your attention on making the deals that will make money.
Almost as soon as you possibly can, you should begin to hire people to do the mundane tasks that must be accomplished and free up as much of your own time as possible for deal-making.
So what exactly are the activities that constitute deal making? Briefly and concisely they are the activities that have the potential for putting money into your bank account. A few of these activities are:
Visiting forums and blogs that relate to your niche: Forums and blogs are where you find the real living, breathing people who are YOUR potential customers and until somebody drags out their credit card, puts in their information, and buys products or services from you, you haven’t made a dime so you need to go where the people are and find out how to best serve their wants and needs.
Visit websites that are related to your website. This is where you will find your potential joint venture partners. Contact the webmasters and work on making mutually profitable deals.
Begin your E-zine: This is one of the most potentially profitable deals that you can make for yourself. The longer your list grows, the more profits you can make.
Attend seminars in the brick and mortar world and build good solid business relationships with others in your field. Here again, are potential joint venture partners that you need to take the time to cultivate.
Does This Mean We Should Ditch Work And Focus On Entirely Deals Only?
It would if we could just ditch the work-a-day-work and do nothing with our time other than making the deals that make us money! Now that would be what I would call a perfect world.
Unfortunately, the work-a-day-work must be done and until our ‘ship comes in’ we are probably going to be the ones who have to do that as well as make the deals that make us money.
As long as we are going to have to do both we can at least learn how to work smarter. We can learn how to get the same amount of ‘work’ accomplished in less time so that we can free up more time for making the deals that will make us money.
Some examples of working smarter are:
Write a FAQ page for your website and use your autoresponder to direct most questions to that site.
Subscribe to a Private Label Rights (PLR) membership website and use that material (with only a little rewrite) as your blog posts and your website content. You can even make whole new products that can be sold from this PLR material.
Earn a schedule for yourself that allows only so much time for the tasks that must be completed that make you no money and allow more time in that schedule for the deal-making tasks that will make you money.
Invest in automation software that is designed to take care of simple every day but time consuming tasks.
There is always the ‘work’ that must be done each and every day but don’t let it become the object of your focus. Don’t look for work to be done. Work no longer equals money for you now that you are an internet marketer.
Get the work done as quickly as you can and put your focus on the deal-making activities that will add to your bottom line. It is no longer your job just to make hamburgers…now you need to get out there and look for new markets. You ARE getting paid to think now.
To break free from limiting beliefs, we need to change our preconceptions.
Man is still responsible … His success lies not with the stars, but with himself. He must carry on the fight of self-correction and discipline. – Frank Curtis Williams
Prejudices are previously formed opinions or ideas we hold about ourselves. These beliefs have the power to influence how we feel about ourselves, what we believe we are capable of, and the actions we take (or don’t take) to create the life we want.
So how do we overcome these negative preconceptions? Just like changing our negative thinking to positive, it takes consistent effort and focuses.
Altering our negative self-talk into positive self-talk consistently is key.
Rather than tearing ourselves down, we can choose to fill our inner dialogue with empowering affirmations and build ourselves up.
Think about this: how would you speak to someone you loved and respected?
Would you be cruel and unforgiving? Or would you be kind, encouraging, and supportive? It doesn’t matter what others say to you, or how others treat you. What matters is how you treat yourself! (Ironically, the better you treat yourself, others pick up on that and begin to see you differently – and ultimately treat you better. It’s all about what you believe you deserve.)
At the same time, you can also shift your focus from what you don’t want, to what you DO want.
For example, if you fear failure you are motivated to avoid failure at all costs (which usually means procrastinating on your goals and avoiding risk-taking). If you instead focus most of your attention on being successful at whatever you do, you’ll find that the fear of failure diminishes.
The more you focus on what you WANT, the less you will attract what you DON’T WANT.
Dale Breckenridge Carnegie (originally Carnagey until 1922 and possibly somewhat later) (November 24, 1888 – November 1, 1955) was an American writer, lecturer, and developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born in poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a massive bestseller that remains popular today. He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948), Lincoln the Unknown (1932), and several other books.
One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people’s behavior by changing one’s reaction to them.
Dale Carnegie was born in 1888 in Maryville, Missouri, Carnegie was a poor farmer’s boy, the second son of James William Carnagey (b. Indiana, February 1852 – living 1910) and wife Amanda Elizabeth Harbison (b. Missouri, February 1858 – living 1910). His family moved to Belton, Missouri when he was a small child. In his teens, though still having to get up at 4 a.m. every day to milk his parents’ cows, he managed to obtain an education at the State Teacher’s College in Warrensburg. His first job after college was selling correspondence courses to ranchers; then he moved on to selling bacon, soap, and lard for Armour & Company. He was successful to the point of making his sales territory of South Omaha, Nebraska, the national leader for the firm.
After saving $500, Dale Carnegie quit sales in 1911 in order to pursue a lifelong dream of becoming a Chautauqua lecturer. He ended up instead attending the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York, but found little success as an actor, though it is written that he played the role of Dr. Hartley in a roadshow of Polly of the Circus. When the production ended, he returned to New York, unemployed, nearly broke, and living at the YMCA on 125th Street. It was there that he got the idea to teach public speaking, and he persuaded the “Y” manager to allow him to instruct a class in return for 80% of the net proceeds. In his first session, he had run out of material; improvising, he suggested that students speak about “something that made them angry”, and discovered that the technique made speakers unafraid to address a public audience. From this 1912 debut, the Dale Carnegie Course evolved. Carnegie had tapped into the average American’s desire to have more self-confidence, and by 1914, he was earning $500 – the equivalent of nearly $10,000 now – every week.
Maybe one of Carnegie’s most successful marketing moves was to change the spelling of his last name from “Carnagey” to Carnegie, at a time when Andrew Carnegie (unrelated) was a widely revered and recognized name. By 1916, Dale was able to rent Carnegie Hall itself for a lecture to a packed house. Carnegie’s first collection of his writings was Public Speaking: a Practical Course for Business Men (1926), later entitled Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (1932). His crowning achievement, however, was when Simon & Schuster published How to Win Friends and Influence People. The book was a bestseller from its debut in 1936, in its 17th printing within a few months. By the time of Carnegie’s death, the book had sold five million copies in 31 languages, and there had been 450,000 graduates of his Dale Carnegie Institute. It has been stated in the book that he had critiqued over 150,000 speeches in his participation in the adult education movement of the time. During World War I he served in the U.S. Army.
His first marriage ended in divorce in 1931. On November 5, 1944, in Tulsa, Oklahoma, he married Dorothy Price Vanderpool, who also had been divorced. Vanderpool had two daughters; Rosemary, from her first marriage, and Donna Dale from their marriage together.
Carnegie died at his home in Forest Hills, New York. He has been buried in the Belton, Cass County, Missouri, cemetery. The official biography from Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. states that he died of Hodgkin’s disease, complicated with uremia, on November 1, 1955.
Dale Carnegie Training
Dale Carnegie Training is a teaching-based program for businesses based on Dale Carnegie’s teachings. It was founded in 1912 and is represented in more than 80 countries. More than 8 million people have completed Dale Carnegie Training.
The course comprises a proprietary process that uses team dynamics and intra-group activities to strengthen interpersonal relations, manage stress, and handle fast-changing workplace conditions. Other subjects included are communication, creative problem-solving, and focused leadership.
The course is based on a five-phase continuous improvement cycle:
1. Build greater self-confidence
2. Strengthen people skills
3. Enhance communication skills
4. Develop leadership skills
5. Improve our attitude and reducing stress
Dale Carnegie: Day 1
Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.
Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.
People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.
It is the life-the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Sh akes yourself awake. Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto.
Dale Carnegie: Day 2
Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it… that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.
If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities. The thing is to get the work done.
It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
Dale Carnegie: Day 3
Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.
Achievement is getting what you want. Ha happiness is wanting what you get.
Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.
The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.
Man has evil characters, which must be handled delicately, and man must submit to the guidance of rational reason and the logic of good instinct. 💥
The Prophet referred to some of these traits and said:💥 -“The heart of an old man remains young in two aspects, that is, his love for the world (its riches, amusements, and luxuries) and his incessant hope”💥